When someone we love unconditionally as Jesus loves us, especially after we have given them our all and sacrificed more for them than they have for us, the betrayal, lies, and cheating can hurt. This can happen between married couples, people in relationships, or close friendships, and when it does, the person it has happened to usually doesn’t handle the pain very well. Suicide and suicidal attempts, depression, stress, seeking revenge, anger, isolation and bitterness festers upon the heart and mind of the one wronged. I should know, because it has recently just happened to me, repeatedly I might add. To say that my heart felt as if it was being stabbed doesn’t even compare. But what does one truly do when they find themselves in this situation, feeling all alone, and as if no one could understand what you’re going through? I shut down and told everyone I was fine, smiled, laughed, and carried on daily as usual, but when alone, I cried, I folded in on myself as if an infant, and hardly ate, only to get right back up the next day to pretend again.
The good thing, and yes, I said the “good thing” about being in isolation doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing because here you gain clarity, you gain strength, you become shaped and molded into what God needs you to be and that’s focused, focused on Him and His Kingdom becoming a Kingdom builder and learning how to trust the process that if someone walked out of your life after two, five, ten, twenty or thirty years for someone else they consider that the “grass will be greener on the other side” with, then most assuredly God allowed it to happen, He removed them from your life for a reason. You must ask yourself, where were you in God before you gave that person all your time and all of you? You were devoted to God and Jesus that’s where, but along the way, you faltered, you fell short of His glory, and He needed to move in and show you that hey, He needs you to come back into the fold. You must never lose yourself trying to love someone else, no matter the many sacrifices you have made for them, the disrespect you endured, or the adultery committed and lies told. Betrayal that you allow repeatedly becomes for the one hurting you, not repeated mistakes, but patterns repeated, and they’re just truly showing you who they were the whole time, but because love is blind, you tend not to see it, until the pain is too intense and too unbearable.
According to the Bible, when someone betrays you, God instructs you to forgive them, as stated in Matthew 6:14-15: “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” This essentially means that even though the pain of betrayal is real, God encourages you to let go of resentment and choose to forgive the person who hurt you. God understands your pain. While encouraging forgiveness, the Bible also acknowledges the hurt and pain that comes with betrayal, therefore, God wants you focusing on your own healing while forgiving the one who betrayed you, it’s very important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and seek support if needed. Also, don’t forget to love yourself more, and know your worth, because next to God, no one will love you more so and unconditionally than yourself. God has that special one just for you. So what that this one didn’t work out, that one didn’t work out, the Bible says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord,” not she who finds a husband, meaning that finding a good wife is considered a great blessing and a sign of God’s favor (Proverbs 18:22), but ladies, if you happen to gain a husband from the Lord, be absolutely sure God is totally in it so you’re both yoked equally and are only cleaving to one another, not the sins of the world. You can do this by fasting, reading scriptures, meditating, and praying. Stay connected to the Vine, and the Vine is Jesus. He will never steer you wrong, only you can do that to yourself because He gives you free will. Get back to doing you, whatever “doing you was,” maybe going to school to better yourself, starting a new career, a new hobby, traveling, vacationing, starting a Blog, joining a gym to lose weight, or just simply going on Sabbatical. Either way, if it brings you peace and peace of mind, and closer to God or back to God, why not? This is where He wants you without all the distractions of focusing on those betrayals, lies, and the one who cheated. Why would you allow this to weigh and drag you down. Life is meant to be lived to the fullest, laughing until your stomach hurts, and loving unconditionally. Therefore, forgive and be happy. Until next time folks, blessings upon you all!
